Life Lessons in the Real World

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7 Common Sense Love Lessons that Could Save Your Life

During the past week, I’ve been watching a young relative of mine go through her first painful break-up. She’s 16 years old. Her boyfriend is her whole world. Her heart is breaking. Many years ago, when I was 16, I too was involved in a painful relationship. And because I wanted so badly for the relationship to work, I allowed …Continue reading →

Have You Learned to Accept Yourself?

Last week, I wrote about my mother’s journey of self-acceptance, which prompted several of you to ask me if I would expand upon what self-acceptance means. Keep reading and I’ll share what I know about how you can learn to accept yourself, thereby tapping into one of the great secrets of happy living. Self-Acceptance Defined At its core, self-acceptance is …Continue reading →

Life Lessons from the Ghost of Christmas Past

If you’re lucky, you come from a family that expresses lots of love and warmth during the holiday season. If you’re not lucky, your family might be something like mine. Listen, I love my family. But every time we all get together for the holidays (brothers, sisters, grandmothers, nieces, nephews), someone always has too much egg nog, says something stupid, …Continue reading →

Are You a Misbehaving Parent?

If you want to observe bad parenting in action, start spending time in family restaurants. I do my share of eating out, and I believe that family restaurants are hands-down the best place to watch parents making fools of themselves in public, not that I enjoy the spectacle, mind you. Incident #1: The Loudmouth Dad Last night, my wife and …Continue reading →

7 Life Lessons I Learned Playing Call of Duty 4

Can video games be useful for personal development? During the long Thanksgiving weekend, I spent a fair amount of time playing Call of Duty 4 on my Xbox gaming system. For those of you who aren’t familiar with it, Call of Duty 4 is a video game that allows you to play as a modern-day soldier, pitting your simulated gun-fighting …Continue reading →

The Anti-Pattern Approach to Personal Development

As many of you know, I have a lot of experience working in software development. I also have a lot of experience with personal development. Every now and then, I run across a topic that applies equally to both fields of interest. The other day, I was reading a book on software anti-patterns, and I thought, wow, anti-patterns aren’t just …Continue reading →

The 3 Layer Cake of Happiness

If you’re looking for a quick way to remember the basic principles of happiness without going blind reading the latest research, this article is for you. Let’s start with some helpful symbolism, shall we? I like to think of happiness as a cake. That’s right, a cake. Chocolate, Angel Food, or Black Forest Surprise, the flavor makes no difference. What …Continue reading →

7 Dumb Reasons Smart People Settle for Terrible Jobs

There are a lot of people in this world who believe that work necessarily involves pain and sacrifice. They say, “All jobs suck.” They say, “You might as well go for the big money because money is the only reason anyone works.” They say, “Anyone who thinks he can find a job that will actually make him happier is a …Continue reading →

Be Happier Today — 5 Helpful Strategies

Tonight, on my way home from work, I heard a snippet of Desparado, the old Eagles song, playing on the radio. One particular line really resonated with me: It seems to me some fine things have been laid upon your table, but you only want the ones that you can’t get. And I thought, man, that’s human nature for you. …Continue reading →

The Top 7 Myths about Happiness

There are a lot of misconceptions floating around out there regarding happiness. Let’s take a look at the top 7 happiness myths so we can address them quickly and effectively whenever they begin to affect us: 1. You can’t learn to be happier: It wasn’t long ago that researchers believed that every human being was born with a set “happiness …Continue reading →